From a Pediatric Sleep Consultant (and Mom!)

Hi, I’m Lita — a pediatric sleep consultant, a mom of two, and someone who’s worked with dozens of families going through the process of how to wean off the pacifier and transition away from the soother. I know how emotional and tricky it can be. It’s not just about ditching a pacifier — it’s about shifting your child’s comfort system, which often includes routines, attachments, and your own peace of mind.

Why Weaning Matters (and When to Start)

There are good reasons to begin the process gently around 12 to 18 months. Research has shown that extended pacifier use can contribute to dental issues like open bite or crossbite, and may even impact speech development if used past the age of two. (University of Utah Health)

The American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry recommends weaning by age two to avoid long-term oral complications. (Children’s Wisconsin) And while pacifiers can reduce the risk of SIDS in infants, their benefits don’t extend past babyhood — making toddlerhood the perfect time to gently let it go.

Understanding how to wean off the pacifier safely helps protect your child’s dental and speech development.

How to Wean Off the Pacifier: My Go-To Strategies for Soother Weaning

Here’s what I’ve used in my home and with the families I support:

1. Start with limits: Begin by limiting pacifier use to sleep times only — naps and bedtime. This step alone often reduces dependency without a meltdown.
2. Offer a “lovey” or comfort object: This can be a soft blanket, stuffed animal — or one of my favorites, Binkie Bear. I’ll share more about that below!
3. Practice during the day: Use gentle language like, “The pacifier stays in the bed,” and guide them toward other calming strategies during the day.
4. Create a goodbye moment: Whether it’s a “binky fairy” or a trade-in for a new toy or comfort item, like putting it into the Binkie Bear, a small ceremony gives closure. I’ve seen toddlers take so much pride in giving it up!
5. Stay consistent — and kind: You don’t need to rush, but consistency is key. If you decide to say goodbye to the soother, stick to it with love and patience.

Why I Recommend Binkie Bear

Binkie Bear is a transitional object designed specifically for children weaning off pacifiers. It’s a soft, cuddly bear that can help ease the emotional side of the transition by giving your child something tangible and comforting to hold onto.

I’ve recommended Binkie Bear to many of my clients — and used it personally in my own home. It’s been such a game changer for little ones who need a physical connection to soothe without sucking.

You can get 10% off your entire purchase at mybinkiebear.com/TIMETOSLEEP by using the code TIMETOSLEEP at checkout. I always suggest grabbing one before starting the weaning process so your child can begin forming that new connection early.

Suggested Weaning Timeline

Common Concerns I Hear (And What I Say)

• “My child won’t sleep without it.” That’s totally normal at first. I remind parents that toddlers are incredibly adaptable. With some support and consistency, they adjust within a few days to a couple of weeks.
• “Will this mess up our routine?” Routines might feel shaky for a bit, but they bounce back quickly. Stick with your bedtime rituals — just substitute the pacifier for another comfort item.
• “What if my child is really upset?” That’s where connection matters most. Extra cuddles, storytelling, and calm reassurance go a long way. And if you feel stuck, it’s okay to pause and try again when everyone is in a better place.

You’re Not Alone in This

Weaning off the pacifier can feel like a big shift — and it is — but you don’t have to do it alone. I’ve supported many families through this transition, and I’d be honored to support yours too. If you’re unsure when to start or how to create a plan that feels right for your child, feel free to reach out.

And don’t forget — if you’re looking for a soft, soothing companion to help with this transition, Binkie Bear is my top recommendation. Use code TIMETOSLEEP for 10% off your entire purchase!

Let’s Work Together

If you’re navigating sleep transitions — like weaning off the soother — and want support tailored to your child’s needs, I’d love to connect. I offer personalized sleep support that’s compassionate, research-backed, and designed to fit your family.

Visit my website: It’s Time to Sleep

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You don’t have to do this alone — I’m here to help.

References

• Children’s Wisconsin: Pacifier Weaning Tips
• NIH: Pacifier Use and Breastfeeding Duration
• University of Utah Health: When and How to Wean
• Binkie Bear Official Site